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Rod and Karen discuss government shutdown, DACA, Ciara, LGBTQ news, woman googles murder, man leaves his kids in the car at strip club, man tries to steal two trains and sword ratchetness.
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Hey Rod and Karen!
Y’all spoke a word about the church and marriage! I was one of those women that would have been co-signing that sermon that Ciara posted. Admittedly, I was over the quest for marriage by the time I got married. In other words, I’d gotten past thinking something was wrong with me and was fully prepared to be single for the rest of my life. But there were some residual church teachings that led to me ultimately getting married like the ‘sin’ of sex outside of marriage and the woman’s call to be the man’s helper. More importantly, some of those church teachings are what kept me in the marriage. I can’t put it all on the church though. Before I got married, my family and close friends were resigned to the fact that it wasn’t going to get married. After I got married, I leveled up in my family’s eyes like a mofo! Listen! Here I am – single, good job, well traveled, debt-free (except for my mortgage), always swooping in to save family members, the only one that showed up to ALL family functions…. I thought I was pretty phenomenal. But when I walked in with that man you would think I turned into Wonder Woman. After that, if I showed up without him the questions were endless – where was he, how’s he doing, is he coming next time?
By the time I decided to get divorced, I was at peace. But I was a little hesitant to tell my family. As suspected, there was a lot of speculation that EYE was being too hard on him. No one asked how I was doing, but there were plenty inquiries about him and how he was doing. Listen, I love and respect my family, but this past Christmas I had to take a break from them. Then I was petty with it and drove to NC, but I spent time with friends and my godmother. Oh and it’s been awhile since I’ve been to church too. God and I are still good, but I had to take a break from the misogynistic rhetoric.
Sorry for such a long vent but every now and then I get triggered. I’ve given myself until the one year anniversary of my divorce to stop being bitter about my marriage so please forgive me. I have a little less than 4 months to get it all out.